Symptom 10: Prone to Externalizing Behaviors
When emotions remain unidentified or unexpressed, they don’t just disappear. For many with alexithymia, these emotions find an outlet through external behaviors. These can range from mood swings and irritability to more pronounced behaviors like aggressive outbursts or substance abuse.
Think of a pressure cooker. When the pressure inside builds up, it needs a release. For those with alexithymia, the unidentified emotions are the building pressure, and externalizing behaviors are the release. It’s not a calculated or malicious act, but rather a subconscious way to deal with overwhelming feelings.
Externalizing behaviors can significantly disrupt daily life. It can affect personal relationships, professional commitments, and even one’s mental and physical health. It’s like walking on a tightrope, never quite knowing when the next outburst might occur or what might trigger it.
While these behaviors might seem challenging or even aggressive, they’re often a cry for help. They signal an internal emotional turmoil that the individual might not even be consciously aware of. Recognizing this is the first step toward understanding and support.
The key lies in channeling this energy constructively. With professional guidance, individuals can learn to recognize their triggers, understand their emotions, and find healthier outlets for their feelings. Over time, this not only reduces externalizing behaviors but also fosters emotional growth and self-awareness. (10)
