Symptom 8: External Thinking Patterns
While introspection comes naturally to many, those with alexithymia tend to have a primarily external focus. Their thoughts revolve around external events rather than internal feelings. It’s like being a spectator in a game, constantly watching, analyzing, but rarely participating emotionally.
The world of someone with alexithymia is predominantly shaped by what’s tangible and observable. They’ll talk about events, people, and places with remarkable detail, but when it comes to feelings, the narrative often becomes vague or non-existent. It’s not an intentional omission; it’s just how their cognitive patterns have evolved.
This external thinking pattern isn’t without its advantages. It often makes individuals with alexithymia excellent in professions that require acute observational skills. However, on the flip side, personal relationships might suffer. Partners, friends, or family members might feel there’s a lack of emotional depth or connection.
To an external observer, these individuals might come across as highly objective or even aloof. But beneath this perceived objectivity, there’s a plethora of muted emotions. It’s not a conscious choice to ignore them, but rather a cognitive style that prioritizes the external over the internal.(8)
