Fact 14: Role of Family and Friends
At the core of the challenges faced by those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a deep-rooted fear of abandonment. This intensifies the need for a stable, understanding, and supportive network of loved ones. Families and friends are often the frontline warriors in the battle against BPD, playing a role that’s both demanding and indispensable.
Loved ones often find themselves on an emotional roller coaster, mirroring the highs and lows experienced by the person with BPD. One moment, they might be the object of intense love and the next, irrational anger. Understanding that these shifts are symptomatic of the disorder, rather than personal affronts, is crucial for maintaining relationships.
For families and friends, setting boundaries isn’t just beneficial—it’s essential. Clear boundaries ensure that while they support their loved one with BPD, they also safeguard their own mental and emotional well-being. Engaging in therapy can help in crafting and maintaining these essential boundaries.
Open dialogue is a cornerstone for families and friends supporting someone with BPD. Creating a space where feelings, fears, and frustrations can be voiced without judgment can pave the way for better understanding and mutual growth. It’s not about ‘fixing’ the person with BPD but understanding and journeying with them.
While the focus is often on the individual with BPD, families and friends too need support. Joining support groups, engaging in therapy, or simply having a confidant can provide a much-needed respite and guidance on this challenging journey. (14)
