10. Unfiltered Honesty: A Transparent Window to Their Thoughts
One of the most striking behaviors of individuals with Asperger’s Syndrome is their unfiltered honesty. While many people might consider whether a statement is socially acceptable before making it, those with Asperger’s often speak the unvarnished truth as they see it. This directness can come across as refreshing but also, at times, as startling or abrupt to those unaccustomed to such candor.
Take, for instance, the common scenario where someone asks how they look in a particular outfit. While many would opt for diplomacy, an individual with Asperger’s is likely to provide an accurate assessment. Their aim isn’t to hurt feelings but to answer the question as precisely as possible. They might not realize that the question often serves as a request for affirmation, rather than an inquiry demanding a forthright response.
It’s important to note that this honesty is not an inability to lie. They can, and do, lie, especially if they understand that doing so is necessary for self-preservation or to avoid greater harm. However, lying or even bending the truth feels counterintuitive to them, a cumbersome detour in their natural inclination to be straightforward.
The social ramifications of this unfiltered honesty are complex. While it can create awkward moments or misunderstandings, it can also serve as a foundation for deep, authentic relationships. When a person with Asperger’s compliments you, there’s no need to question the sincerity behind their words. Their compliments, criticisms, and observations come from a place of purity, untainted by social gamesmanship or hidden agendas. (10)
