10. Subtle Communication Cues: The Lost Art of Unspoken Language in Female Asperger’s
Finally, here’s something to chew on. While many of us take non-verbal cues for granted, for women with Asperger’s, these cues often feel like a foreign language. Yep, these tiny flickers of eyes, the shrugs, even a simple smile—completely lost in translation. It’s not that they don’t care; they are deeply observant but miss what’s commonly understood.
It’s kind of like being a literary scholar fluent in Shakespearean English but struggling with text emojis. The trouble this causes in their day-to-day life is monumental. Imagine walking into a room and missing the tension so thick you could cut it with a knife. That’s life for these women—sometimes blissfully ignorant, other times tragically so.
Interestingly, some women with Asperger’s develop their own sophisticated systems for decoding human behavior. It’s a coping strategy, an entirely self-developed survival guide, if you will. And let’s be clear, they don’t memorize; they analyze and apply logic, like piecing together an intricate puzzle.
Let’s shift gears and consider the advantages. Yes, you heard it right—advantages. Their unique perspective helps them notice things others overlook, like inconsistencies in what people say and do. Often, they can call out duplicity that everyone else seems to ignore, which in some settings could be seen as a superpower.(10)
