Fact 4: Stability in Routine – The Comfort of Consistency
For most of us, a break in routine is a refreshing change. However, for children with AS, consistency and routine provide comfort. They thrive in environments where there’s predictability. This preference isn’t about being rigid but stems from a need to navigate a world that often seems chaotic to them. Predictable routines offer them a semblance of control.
Even a minor change, like a different route to school or a substitute teacher, can be unsettling. This isn’t about resistance to change per se. It’s about the anxiety and uncertainty that change brings. When they know what to expect, they can mentally prepare themselves, which drastically reduces anxiety. However, sudden changes throw them off balance, leading to stress and sometimes even meltdowns.
Their homes, schools, or any familiar environment often become their comfort zones. These are places where things remain relatively consistent. Within these spaces, they feel secure, knowing they can predict what will happen next. It’s a sanctuary where the unpredictability of the outside world doesn’t intrude, and they can be themselves without the constant stress of adapting.
While routine is crucial, it’s equally important to teach them flexibility. Life is unpredictable, and changes are inevitable. By gradually introducing small changes and equipping them with coping strategies, we can prepare them for life’s uncertainties. This balance between routine and adaptability is essential for their overall growth and development.
Every time a child with AS adjusts to a new situation or copes with a change, it’s a significant achievement. These moments, though seemingly small, are monumental for them. Recognizing and celebrating these victories can boost their confidence, making them more resilient in the face of future challenges. (4)
